The Mediocre Medical Mom

Just your average Mom navigating the world of parenting two children with medical needs.

****I am not a doctor, and I am not giving diagnoses for different disorders by any means, I am bringing awareness to the basics of what disassociation could look like for different people. Everyone’s experiences in life vary vastly but with my input and general things to look out for if you’re experiencing certain mental health struggles and recognize that you may be feeling similar or struggling with your emotions due to specific events; please reach out to your doctor or any of the resources or hotlines that you can find below on this page.****

What is Trauma? It is an emotional or physical response to something distressing, frightening, life-threatening or an event that happened to you. It overwhelms a person’s ability to cope. Psychological trauma leaves long-lasting, negative effects on how a person functions, their mental well-being and their ability to view the world as a safe place.

***Types of traumas include: Acute Trauma– results from a single, short-term event like a car crash or a natural disaster. Chronic Trauma– stems from repeated, prolonged exposure to distressing events/circumstances such as abuse or bullying. Complex Trauma– involves multiple, often, inescapable traumatic events, usually of an interpersonal nature. Secondary Trauma- occurs through indirect exposure to others suffering, common in first responders. *** Common Symptoms include Emotional– fear, helplessness, shock, anger, or emotional numbness. Physical– rapid heart rate, sleep changes, fatigue, or hyperactive “fight or flight” response. Psychological– intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, or avoidance of traumas reminders.

What is disassociation? It is a mental process that causes a disconnection from your thoughts, feelings, memories, physical body, or sense of identity. It sits on a wide spectrum ranging from everyday mild detachment to severe chronic conditions. It is a natural psychological defense mechanism when you’re faced with overwhelming stress, intense trauma, or physical danger that you can’t escape. It’s a tool that your brain uses to protect you from extreme distress. Zoning out is one thing and somewhat normal but frequent and disruptive disassociation can be recognized as different disorders.

(I am not a doctor, and I am not giving diagnoses for different disorders by any means, I am bringing awareness to the basics of what disassociation could look like for different people. Everyone’s experiences in life vary vastly but with my input and general things to look out for if you’re experiencing certain mental health struggles and recognize that you may be feeling similar or struggling with your emotions due to specific events; please reach out to your doctor or any of the resources or hotlines that you can find below on this page)

  • Mild Experiences: the best way to describe this is like “daydreaming” or “highway hypnosis” where you drive home without remembering the route or like you were driving at all.
  • Depersonalization: this is when you are feeling as if you’re detached from your own body or like you’re watching yourself from the outside looking in, as if you were in a movie.
  • Derealization: feeling like everything and the world around you isn’t real. Sort of like a dream or distorted.
  • Amnesia: there are parts of your memories towards specific events, periods of time, or personal information that are like big gaps in your mind. You don’t remember them as vividly because your mind created a block to them.

RESOURCES:

  • Immediate Crisis Support (Free & 24/7): *988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or Text 988 (or chat @ 988lifeline.org). *Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a crisis counselor via text. *Veterans Crisis Line: 988 and press 1 or text 838255. *Disaster Distress Helpline: Call or text 1-800-985-5990 for emotional support related to natural or human-caused disasters.
  • Online Directories & Finding Care: *FindSupport.gov: *Psychology Today Therpaist Finder: search for local therapists, psychiatrists & support groups. *Mental Health America: explore screening tools & resources.
  • Mindfulness & Meditation: Headspace App, Calm App, Insight Timer App
  • Anxiety & CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy): MindShift CBT, Happify, Rootd
  • Therapy & Professional Support: Talkspace, BetterHelp, Wysa

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Hi! I’m Jen, a mediocre Mom in a ‘children with medical needs’ world.

Welcome to The Mediocre Medical Moms corner of the universe! If you have landed here, it was for a reason. There is a specific group of people that we all happen to belong to; we are parents of children with medical needs.

Some are common, some are uncommon, some are rare, some are easy to understand, and some are not. We all face challenges in our daily lives trying to find the perfect balance for our children with medical needs as well as ourselves along the way…which isn’t always easy for us. No matter the diagnosis, you are not alone and we are in this together. Whether you are just browsing to find some common ground with someone who can relate, looking for advice, tips, understanding, and even resources to help make this journey a little easier. I am happy that you are here, and I hope you’re able to find what you are looking for!

From my daughters Type 1 Diabetes diagnosis, to my sons 3 month stay at Boston Childrens Hospital for Tracheomalacia, Ventricular Septal Defect (and more), from medications to oxygen to feeding tubes, I have just about seen it all and I am excited to share my journey with you.

My hope is to give a little insight to anything a parent in our position might need. Whether I can help a parent that is new to this or just give some solace to a parents that’s been in it as long as I have, my goal is to share my story and help other parents with tools they need to keep pushing and continue to fight this fight TOGETHER.

In my page, you will find blogs of my personal experiences with diagnoses, hospital stays, adjusting to home life, relationships & kids with medical needs, adjusting to school aged children with medical needs, 504 Plans, IEPs, pregnancy, trauma, advocating for our kids, and more. I’m hoping to share all kinds of lists that can fit your needs/concerns, tips & tricks for coping, resources and much more!

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EMAIL: mediocremedicalmom@outlook.com